Wayne Dyer reframes the ego as the moment we "edge God out" — the idea of being a separate self instead of a piece of source. Drawing on quantum physics and the Tao, he argues all particles emerge from a beginningless field, and offers parenting as a daily practice in non-interference.
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we'll take over from here and that was the biggest mistake all of a sudden you get out e g o you edged God out and you took on an ego didn't you and what is an ego it's just an idea just an idea about who you are instead of being a peace of God a piece of the source you decided and those around you decided that you were something different and if you studied quantum physics and you took the tiny little particle that began you and you looked at tried to find out where it came from and reduced it down to its tiniest sub subatomic properties ultimately you would discover what Lao Chu knew that it's the spirit that gives life that you didn't come from a particle that particles do not create particles particles do not come from particles originally all particles come from an energy a field of energy that has no beginnings and no ends and no boundaries and that's who you are and returning back to that and letting go of the idea that Who You Are is what you have and who you are is who you control I don't think there's any more all-pervasive theme in the Dao de Ching than the idea of being a non-interferer do you Stephen I mean isn't it it's about not interfering isn't it it's about letting go it's about allowing it's about detaching it's about disconnecting yourself from this belief that you are in charge of other people I'm the father of eight children and the father of motivation that's what they tell me so I've got and as this father of eight children one of the things that I've recognized and what has made me I think a better parent particularly even since I've been doing this is my willingness to I call it the bite your tongue verse of the dial just hang back just for a second just as you're about to interfere just as you're about to lay it on and tell somebody else how they should be and what they should do and how they should do it you step back and realize that what Khalil Gibran the great Lebanese poet in writing in the prophet said was just a basic truth your children are not your children they are the products of life's longing for itself they come through you but not for you and you step back and I can't even begin to tell you how freeing it is to realize that you don't have anything to do you don't have anyone to control you can be at peace and I watch and I've become much more of an observer even even on airplanes I was in London five days ago [Music] and I don't know if you've flown in and out of Heathrow lately but uh things have really changed you know we couldn't take anything on the plane the terrorists whoever they are selling fear and we respond with more fear every time you use Force you create a counter force and then another counter force and before you know and the Dow teaches us all I mean one of the great lessons in the dial is that any country that has its primary resources and its energy placed on building weapons is not of the Tao and those countries that have their Consciousness located in the Dao put their energy into tractors and building homes and growing food not building weapons I saw a movie not too long ago with the Nicholas Cage about Warlords or something the Lords of War I think it was something like one of those alarming things about how much energy we are in the world creating energy to destroy ourselves that we have literally created from our Consciousness enough Weaponry on this planet to eliminate all life within just a few moments it's all there it's all there for us we've allowed ourselves to move so far away from the great teachings of the great spiritual Masters and we believe that we're a Christian Nation or that we're a spiritual Nation when we find ourselves having moved away from these simple principles and then getting upset with other people because we can have these kind of weapons but they can't and we don't look hard enough at ourselves