Hans Wilhelm describes the family as a karmic constellation rather than a biological accident, with souls drawn together by vibrational similarity across lifetimes. He treats family difficulty as a mirror for one's own unresolved patterns and as the soul's first arena for spiritual learning.
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hi I'm Hans bilheim and in this video in the Life explained series we will talk about our family and the dynamic within our family relationships particularly the ones and families can be very challenging we may often wonder why there are certain members in our family and why they are so difficult and we seem to have nothing in common with them and we do anything to get out of their way but as we will see in this video there are no coincidences in life this includes our family come let's have a look our true reality is the spiritual reality of course where our true spiritual home is it's a family a circle of friends of similar Soul vibration and when we decide to Incarnate again as a human being into this world we often arrange with some members of this group to Incarnate with us and share the experience here on Earth the reason why they are willing to join us can be mostly for their own karmic reasons and to accelerate their growth and or simply to support us here during that time and they may adopt the role of to be our future mother father sister close friends or even our own kids first time that we incarnate together in previous lifetimes they have also been with us but in different roads and gender so when we arrive here on Earth several of them are already here to receive us so let us draw our future mommy and our daddy and they are the grandparents and uncles and others and so on and here is the little baby carriage now we know from the law of attraction that likes attracts likes and therefore our soul can only be attracted to an expecting mother of similar Soul vibration which means they must have the same or similar character traits and beliefs and behavior programs so our mother and to a lesser degree Our Father are very similar to us and so it's most likely the rest of the whole family since families also have a group family vibration that has to correspond with ours so the first lesson here is anything that we don't like in our mother and our father is also in us otherwise we could not have been attracted to them it's important to remember and here we are as a little baby there we are now in other words our first teachers in life is always our immediate family basically we are all homeschooled they are teaching us directly or indirectly by their examples and much of it is good but much of it is not so good like corn dish conditional love we all know that conditional love it goes like Mommy will only love you if you eat your porridge and daddy will only love you if you clean your room and so on and we learn that being loved and accepted is conditional and to get some of that love and acceptance and approval we better follow other people's expectations later on we may even continue playing the same game with our own new family and our own kids but that's another story now if we have never questioned the condition the love that we received as a young child or understood that everything we dislike in another person is a trait in us we may experience family gatherings as pure torture now let's look at a typical Thanksgiving dinner that takes place here in America and many homes once a year there we have the entire family parent siblings grandparents uncles and maybe even our own kids and grandkids all around the big hand the table they're all hand-picked by us for our own growth and spiritual awakening and this is Asia they are our choice characters oh and here I forgot the most important character of course is the turkey here we have got the turkey which of course for the vegans Among Us it's a tofu turkey now the only reason why we may still find this event as pure torture is that we are still craving for their love approval and acceptance but let me put it very directly it is not their job to love us or approve of us or accept us even for who we are that is our job and our job alone as the old saying goes it is not important what others think of me but what I think about myself for as long as we crave for their love approval and acceptance we are bound to them depend depended on them and basically we are their slaves and we never come into our full bloom until we now throw off those Checkers but part of growing up means loving ourselves not until we are able to love and accept and approve of ourselves are we able to love anybody else now this includes our own spouses and our own children we are always we always have to do first what we want others to do to us give them what we need like if we need support we give them support first and if we need nurturance we nurture others first therefore Thanksgiving is always a lesson in love any tension animosity or fight is simply an approve an opportunity to love there are as of course a miracle calls it cries for love and any family member who pushes our button like for instance this guy here is somebody who reflects back to us our own beliefs character traits are programs that we have either overtly or repressed and for more on this please look at my video on the law of projection therefore any member who gives us a hard time is also our teacher our savior we give him a Halo and our main reason why we are at this particularly dinner table and at any other family gathering is to love and accept and approve everybody else present everybody wants to be loved just like us but we have to do it first now that may be difficult for some who hold grudges against certain family members for a very long time like shame and Guild binds us to these family members like for instance let's take this guy here this is sort of a bad guy the black sheep in the family and and he just gives us really the wish he could really make us upset but only forgiveness can dissolve these ties and forgiveness is a very big subject and I invite you to watch this special video on the subject if you're interested because if we do not forgive chances are we will be doing the same thing to another person sooner or later let me say this again because it is very important because if we don't forgive chances are we will be doing the same thing to another person sooner or later we are not here to heal that person but we are here to heal the problem we have with that person they don't need our healing we need the healing and replace the toxic energy with positive energies in US and when we are in our love Center we accept everything people do or say as part of their Journey and we know that if they are consciously on the past they will similarly accept our own moment-to-moment stuff for this is what helps them to grow too and if they are not consciously on the path and become angry that is their problem we can still love them even with their anger now summing up I like to repeat that our family irrespective if they are birth family or adopted is a cast of characters that we have consciously selected for our growth and Awakening here on Earth it is the perfect family for us give them thanks for being here for us everyone is on their own path with their own understanding and growth and they all have their own inner guidance we are here to bring them love support and encouragement but it would be wrong to feel sorry for any of them or put them down now Byron Katie once suggested to make our next Thanksgiving or any other family gathering a b y o l a a bring your own love approval and appreciation and you will be fine