" His core argument: holding resentment about a person who wronged you is asking the wrong person — usually you — to swallow the prescription.
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side of ourselves it would be like going to the doctor and telling him all of your symptoms the doctor says oh boy you've got a lot of symptoms and he starts writing out prescriptions you need a prescription for this symptom you need a prescription for that symptom and finally he gets this four or five and you go to walk out and you say well I'd like my prescriptions he said no no I'll give this one to your mother-in-law and I'll give this one to your neighbor and I'll give this one to your daughter and I'll give this one to your father I mean you're the one with the struggles and with the difficulties expecting somebody else to change or something outside of you to get better in order for you to make your life work is something you have to really take a hard look at it's in here this is a very difficult principle for many people to get but one that I believe very strongly [Music] I was in a group one time of uh drug addicts and alcoholics and the sign on the wall said there are no Justified resentments in this group what I said to that group that that night was no matter what anybody says to you here no matter what kind of uh anger comes directed towards you no matter how much hate you may encounter showing up in your life there are no Justified resentments meaning that if you carry around resentment inside of you about anything or about anyone and I'm talking about the person that you lent money to and hasn't paid you back I'm talking about the person in your life that you feel was abusive in your life I'm talking about the person who walked out on you and left you for somebody else I'm talking about all of the things that you have justified in your heart and in your life that you have the right to be resentful about and I'm suggesting to you that those resentments will always end up harming you and creating in you a sense of Despair no one ever dies from a snake bite snake bite will never kill you you cannot be unbitten once you're bitten you're bitten but it's the Venom that continues to pour through your system after the bite that will end up destroying you